Do you wish for someone to connect with? Do you want to be on the same page with those closest to you? Do you wish your spouse or significant other would just think like you? Let me first tell you that as single person I wished for that major connection. My personality thrives on connection and kindred spirits. Not too many people think similarly, so when I meet someone who does, it's pretty awesome. When I met Chris I was kind of surprised by the fact that I could talk to him for hours and not get bored. You see, Chris thinks very differently. Honestly, at first it used to kinda bother me how differently he thought. I used to be like, "how come you can't just feel like I do?" Or, "can't we just sit here and talk about our feelings for a bit?"
At first, it might seem like we aren't on the same page or that we don't get along. The thing is, Chris talking about his feelings isn't always what makes me feel closest. Him being a thinker is actually what really attracts me to him, so when I get all pouty wishing he was more of a feeler, it is really just me being selfish.
Last week, we were driving up to MA, and we got talking. Riding in the car with Chris is probably my favorite thing. It's where we do the most talking. We were talking about a situation I wished I had handled differently. When Chris tried giving me pointers, I asked, "Why do I have to feel everything, why can't I just think like you?" I really admire how Chris thinks before he speaks and knows exactly what to say. I was feeling a little sorry for myself and was wondering if there was something wrong with my way of thinking. Chris changed that.
He told me about how he admires my loyalty. He explained how strongly I will stand up for something no matter what flies my way. When I told him how bothered I was by what someone had said, he told me that those feelings were good. That not everyone is in tune with recognizing the signals that something is wrong. He then went on to say that I was only lacking one thing.
"Krystal you just have to stop and think about why you feel those feelings. Stop and think about what it means before you jump to conclusions and just base everything on the feeling. If you do that, you can do a lot of good." When I considered this, I then expressed why I was bothered. Chris then said, "If I were in your shoes, I would not have approached that person with as much heart. I probably would have plowed them over with my logic and would have hurt them. You took logic and put a heart to it. Your way of thinking would have spoken to their heart and made them think."
In that moment I realized what was so powerful about being so different than my husband. In that moment I realized that together we could do something really beautiful for God. If I hadn't considered his way of thinking, I wouldn't have fully appreciated my own way of thinking. I wouldn't have been able to take what I know and improve it. I wouldn't fully understand how sharing the Truth could definitely be covered in deep Love.
There are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are differences of ministries, but the same Lord. And there are diversities of activities, but it is the same God who works all in all. But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all..... - 1 Corinthians 12:4-7